You'll Always Be My Baby

Judah was sitting on my lap the other evening and I said "Hey baby. I love you."
He looked at me and said "I'm not a baby. I'm a man. A manly man."

First a bad guy and now a man. When exactly did this happen?!

I think I blinked and he became a rather independent and decisive two year old in that brief moment.

And despite what he thinks, he'll always be my baby.

Salvage the Fragments

Salvage Fragments.

I love the idea behind this simple phrase. The thought has really challenged me to not wait for big chunks of time to accomplish tasks but to take advantage of the small moments, the fragments, that are made available to me throughout my day.

It is easy as a young mother with two active and creative boys that think they can fly to feel like my time to do things are limited to when they nap or when they are in bed for the night.
It is overwhelming to think about sitting down and spending the time studying God's Word or making a phone call to encourage a friend or cleaning the kitchen, bathrooms or bedrooms WHILE the boys are up. I love them to death, but they require a lot of attention.

Which is why the concept of "salvage the fragments" resonates so well with me - I have fragments of time. I have lots of fragments, scattered throughout my day.

There is the time that boys like to linger over breakfast, making bubbles in their milk.
There is the time that Judah sits on the potty and Wesley sits in his bouncer watching. (That is a minimum of 10 minutes right there!)
There is the time right before nap where I sit in their room hushing them.
There is the time where they get so engaged in playing with each other they forget about trying to fly down the stairs.

Those fragments of time are maybe 5-15 minute stretches of time that have previously been wasted as I hadn't intentionally been thinking about salvaging the fragments of time. But now those precious moments are the chance for me to do a speed cleaning, read several verses, spend time in prayer, send a text message to a friend or even write a quick letter.

They are small fragments of time, but they are fragments God has given to me and it is my desire to glorify Him in even the simplest moments.

"And whatever you do, do it heartily, as to the Lord and not to men."
Colossians 3:23

Topple

Judah is all about playing games - daily he requests "Play a game with me mommy?"
Of all the games we have I think Topple is my favorite. It's a great game for teaching him balance and coordination. And it's kind of fun to play it with him.

The Bad Guy

Judah: "Bang! Bang!"
Me: "Are you protecting mommy from the bad guy?"
Judah: "No mommy. I am the bad guy."

Wezzy

I love him. And his giggle. And his teetering steps.
I don't want him to get too much older.
He's my baby, and I like it that way.

Money Talk

Our church is doing a financial course on Wednesday nights and the man that led it this past week used this expression "Mile by mile is a trial, Inch by inch is a cinch." Meeting goals doesn't happen in one giant leap - it really is an inch by inch thing, sometimes two inches forward one inch backwards!

At the beginning of the year Paul and I sat down and made out a list of our financial goals for this year - if everything had gone according to plan we should have comfortably been able to meet our goals. But of course stuff happened. Doesn't stuff always happen?

We decided to buy a house. And then put in a wood floor. And then our car needed something fixed on it. And our idea of comfortably meeting our goals slowly fizzled away.

We are determined to meet the goals we set out for this year, they're just now requiring a bit more effort and sacrifice. Our grocery budget is now set in stone - while before I would make excuses as to why it was ok to spend $25 - $50 more each month (stock piling on diapers, having a special meal, having lots of company over, etc.) I now have cash only. And when it runs out, it's out. Right now we have $24 to buy food with for the rest of the month - which with the food I already have in the pantry and freezer it will be enough to make adequate and nutritious meals with for the next 8 days, albeit rather plain meals.

There are other areas in which we are sacrificing to meet our goals; we have unfurnished rooms, unpainted walls and second hand clothing. Paul's nice phone broke and he is currently using a cheap $20 flip phone someone gave him.

The other day I went to the mall to pick up a bathing suit for myself - they are currently 50% - 75% off regular price - and I found the coolest bedding ever for the boys room. It was $50 for each set down from $200 per set- and they had two sets! It was exactly what I had been envisioning for their room - but not only do they not need it right now (Wes is still in a crib and Judah doesn't sleep with any blankets at all, let alone a bulky comforter with a matching pillow!) but we had just reviewed our goals and it was forefront in my mind that we were trying to save every dollar to make our goals work. This bedding was a want that wouldn't be used for years down the road, but it was still hard to pass it up!! It was what I'd dreamed of for their room and not buying it was a sacrifice to our greater dream - that of meeting our financial goals for '09.

Having concrete financial goals for both short term and long term is so important for good financial communication in a marriage. Paul and I both know what it is we want at the end of this year, at the end of 5 years and at the end of 10 years with our money and knowing where it is that we want our money to go and what we want it to do helps us base our (financial) actions off of that and prioritize our purchases.

A Shared Moment

A Giveaway

I love Judah's art work and have a few of his pieces displayed in our home - the one in the picture he told me is an airplane. I just love his imagination :)

My Sponsor company contacted me about their Custom Greetings Card and I only had to think three seconds about what I do to create my own Custom Greeting Card - use a photograph of Judah's art work to be turned into a greeting card - how cool would that be to have your child's art work turned into a greeting card that you could then share with the world? (As a side note, I am not going to use the above picture, it was behind glass in low light and it's horrible quality! It's all I had available at the moment though)

And thinking ahead to Christmas (because I always think about Christmas...) - you could tie a pretty ribbon around ten or fifteen of them and gift them to grandparents. I know my mum is very good about writing to people and I'd like to think she'd be thrilled to use a card with an abstract airplane on the front.



There are SO many options for printing pictures on the front of your very own Custom Greeting Cards - do you own your own business? How cute and professional would it look to have your logo, or something matching your logo, placed on the front of your very own Greeting Card or Custom Postcards?!

Do you have an upcoming wedding or large event? These would be perfect to personalize as thank you notes for wedding gifts or for an invitation to an event.

Or for the un-professional with no events in the near future person like myself - turn your favorite photograph or a photograph of your child's art into a greeting card for personalized and stylish stationary!


WHAT YOU WIN
My sponsor is very generously offering TWO winners the opportunity to win 250 7x5 Greeting Cards.

That is T.W.O.H.U.N.D.R.E.D. and fifty. Wowzers!! That is a lot of cards. Remember my idea of gifting them to the grandparents?! You could be gifting to the aunts and uncles too - maybe even the mail man. Just kidding.
For the professional or event planner this is an awesome giveaway and it could really go far to help you promote your product or be used in your event planning in some way.

For those that would use this for personal use the volume of cards sounds overwhelming, but I think it would be so precious to be writing notes to people years down the road on a Custom Greeting card that my 2 year old son had drawn. Or using a meaningful photograph from a favorite vacation. I am just stoked about this giveaway and that they are offering it to me too!

TO ENTER:

In the comments tell me how would YOU use this prize?
You may blog, FB and tweet about this - for a total of three extra entries. Please leave a seperate comment for each additional entry letting me know where you mentioned this giveaway.

RULES:

US Addresses only.

Shipping must be paid by winner - from what I gathered shipping will be about $10. Not a bad price for 250 cards, but before you enter I want to make sure you understand that you are responsible for shipping costs!

Contest will end on August 28th.

Hospitality

Girl Talk is one of my favorite inspirational blogs to read and for the last little while they have had most of their posts focus on hospitality. I have really been encouraged and challenged to be more intentional with hospitality.

We face rather unique circumstances with Paul's work - he works almost every weekend and we rarely know much ahead of time which days off he will have any given week. And when he gets days off they are rarely back to back. He works long hours so the one or two days he does get off each week is usually him recovering from work. It isn't the most ideal situation for opening our home up to people, but we both enjoy having people in our home and desire to do so. I particularly enjoyed this post on Girl Talk entitled Hospitality Demands:

"All Christians are to practice hospitality but not all in the same way. “As each has received a gift” we are to serve one another, “as good stewards of God’s varied grace”
(1 Pet. 4:7-10)."

We rarely plan much in advance when we are going to have people over. In fact the greater majority of our company we invite a matter of hours before dinner. It is what works best for us at this stage in life - if Paul is rested, the house is in order, the boys and I have had quality time with him, etc. Paul will often say "What do you think about me inviting so and so over for dinner tonight?"

It is neat how God has orchestrated it as the friends we most often have over for dinner are single working men or single students - with no family obligations - and most of the time they are available with only a few hours warning to come over for dinner.

Unless there is extreme circumstances - the boys or I are sick or an event Paul didn't know about, I am all for the extra company coming over.

I learned early in our marriage that Paul enjoys the freedom to invite people over at the last minute, and the Lord really worked on my heart to make me make that possible for Paul. For the last couple years every dinner I make for us is planned out with enough food for an extra person or two to easily join us at the very last minute without it looking like we are scraping together a plate of food for them. It hasn't happened often, but maybe a handful of times someone has come over unexpectedly right before supper has been served and Paul has invited them to join us for dinner. Making sure there is an serving of food doesn't take much extra effort, and if no one unexpected shows up the food is used for lunch for myself and the boys the next day. But on those few days when people show up at dinner time to drop something off or to ask Paul a question or whatever other reason they may coming knocking at that hour it makes it easy to be hospitable and gracious because of the preplanning of dinner portions.

What about you? Is hospitality something you enjoy? Something that is hard work? Have you found a way to make it work into your schedule?

Double Stroller Review

After Wesley was born the ladies at church hosted a baby shower for us and the group gift was this double stroller. Paul and I spent some time researching double strollers and testing them out in the store - it was important to find one with high enough handles for Paul to comfortably push and one with plenty of storage space.

This Tandem stroller met the bill and beyond. We have had this stroller for over a year now and still love it.



Highlights:
*The seats can be positioned in 4 different positions. I LOVE this feature so much. 99% of the time I keep the boys facing each other. They chatter to each other, make faces at each other and entertain themselves (and me!). But anytime they get ornery and start picking on each other I flip one of them around so they can't look at each other. When they are facing each other their feet are all over each other as there isn't a lot of space for them to both be facing the same way, for some reason my boys don't mind this.
It also comes with an infant car seat bar that you can put on and then just put the car seat on top of.

*There is lots of storage space! There are two deep cup holders and a key holder built into the handle bar. The key holder is quite spacious and can hold my keys and phone and cash. The basket underneath the stroller is as long as the stroller frame. It is easily assessable from the back (where the handle bar is) and from the front end, but it is a little more challenging to get anything that ends up in the middle of the stroller basket - which really isn't a big deal since it is a perfect spot for things like shopping bags or beach towels that aren't immediately needed.

*It folds up easily and compactly - or at least I think so. We have an Aztec and it fits very easily in the back of our vehicle with plenty of room to spare. The seats need to be taken off each time you fold the stroller up, but they snap off and on quite easily that it really isn't a big deal.

*Because it is long, and not wide, it easily fits anywhere. There have been a few situations where the length of it has required us to back it up in a tight situation rather than be able to turn it around, but it pushes quite easily and fits almost everywhere.

*The seats recline for the kids to nap - not that my kids nap in public. But if my kids DID sleep in public the seats do recline quite nicely and it's a nice feature. And the shade covers cover up quite a bit - all but their toes get covered.



The Not So Great:
*It is a bit on the heavy side. I quickly checked out a few other double strollers and their weights ranged from 34-45lbs. This one is 53lbs! In the early days after I had given birth it was HARD to pick this up and put it in the back of our car. It's definitely not a lightweight stroller and takes some effort to move. But on the bright side, you can count it as an arm workout when you load/unload it - right?!!?

*The wheels seem cheap. The wheels snap into place and while we haven't really had issues with them, they just seem cheap and like they could have been better constructed.

*The seats are lined with a felt type fabric and it seems like a really hot/sweaty fabric to have on a stroller behind their heads and necks. There is a neck pillow that comes with it made of the same fabric and I removed it since they were just sweating with it in place.

*There is a safety bar that snaps into place in front of them (the seats have a 5 point harness) - if you mindlessly snap the safety bar in place it is VERY EASY to pinch your finger. And it would be easy for little ones fingers to be pinched too.

I have put off reviewing this stroller as I wanted to see how much I liked it after we'd had it for awhile - and after one year of use I can honestly say that I am very pleased with our choice and grateful for this gift!! I would highly recommend this stroller to anyone else looking for a double stroller.

Tybee Island

The Winner

A star fish we found on the beach

Random.org picked #5 which is Leah - my cousin-in-law - as the winner of the Seed's Family Worship cd - congrats Leah!! I'll get that off to you soon. I wish I had enough copies to send everyone one of the cds!

The cd has been played every day here for the past several days and we truly LOVE it. Judah has even started to pick up some of the lines and it is wonderful knowing that he is learning Bible verses. I would highly encourage anyone interested in this to purchase it for themself. It is available on iTunes as well as at www.seedsfamilyworship.net and Christianbook.com - which is where I bought mine from.

We are off to the beach again tomorrow, we're all excited!
Judah especially.
Here he is last week at the beach:



And one my brother took of me - I just wish Paul and the boys had been in the picture too, it is such a beautiful background for a family picture!

Renting Books

I just read about this intriguing new website called Book Swim - it is the Netflix of books. In other words, for those unfamiliar with Netflix, you can rent and return books for a flat, one month fee - postage paid and no late fees.

I think the fee is a tad bit high for me right now - $25/month being the most reasonable package. But I can see myself possibly using this in the future - if I could find books that would be resourceful for homeschooling is my main interest at this point. It would also work well if there were some books I really wanted to read and knew I would have an opportunity that month to read, I would probably buy just a one month plan. Our local library has a pretty bad selection of books and is a pretty run down building and I think I'd rather pay $25/month for books to be sent to my mailbox than to go to the library.

Like I said earlier, the plan is too much money for me right now- I barely finish one book a month and at that rate it's cheaper to just buy the book itself :)

But I am curious - does this idea of renting books online appeal to you? Would you use it now? In special circumstances? Or do you think it's silly?

Giveaway

My bloggy friend Tammy first introduced me to these wonderful cds by Seeds Family Worship - catchy songs, sung by grown ups, with the lyrics taken straight from scripture.
I bought the Seeds of Faith cd (click on the above image to get more details about it) and won one of their other ones from Tammy. And I am just SO excited about this cd!
The cds come 2 to a pack - one for you and one for you to give away. Why?

"We want the seeds of God's Word to be spread far and wide in the hearts of families" - quote from the case

How awesome is that? Even Paul, who is not a fan of "kiddy songs" said that he likes these songs and would listen to them. In fact, the boys have been in bed for 2 hours now and I have had these songs playing for just our enjoyment.

Inspired by Tammy and her giveaway I am going to hold my own. This giveaway will remain open until Monday evening at which time I will use random.org to pick a winner.

Just leave a comment telling me when you play music for your kids (bedtime, in the car, etc.) If you don't have kids you are more than welcome to enter for your future children or to regift - just. um. Make up something.

You can tweet, FB or blog about the giveaway. Each shoutout will get you one more entry in the giveaway. Just make sure to leave a seperate comment for each entry.

This giveaway is open to anyone, anywhere. No postage restrictions.
The winner will be announced Monday night or Tuesday morning.
Whenever I remember.

Check out the video for an example of their style.
And sorry it squishes over so far. I couldn't fix it.

Click on the image to check out all the cool giveaways they are going to be giving away this week! Keep checking back for more opportunities to sign up for other giveaways.
And if you've never poked around 5 Minutes for Mom make sure you do! They have a wonderful, upbeat blog and I love reading their posts!

Judah Funny

The other night as I was rocking Judah before putting him in bed he stroked my face lovingly and said; "Mamma is so handsome."

Then the little rascal stroked his own face and said quite seriously; "Judah is so bootiful."

A Flower Boy

While we were leaving Charleston we stopped at a gas station and a young boy, about 12, asked me if I would like to buy a flower from him. He'd made the flowers from palm leaves. I had seen many other people selling these flowers, but something about this boy compelled me to say yes, and so I bought three of his hand made flowers. At three for $5 you can't really beat that for a hand made souvenir. I'm hoping that it'll maintain its shape as it dries out.

That little boy has been on my heart and mind since we saw him. Even Paul, who doesn't generally speculate too much on strangers lives, thought there was something off about that young boy.

The boy seemed dejected. Overwhelmed. Timid.
And yet he was so polite. And absolutely beautiful.

He didn't appear or speak like he was born and raised in America.
And while this is totally our imaginations, we both thought that he was being forced to sell those flowers.

I have thought about that boy so much this week. Was he kidnapped? A run away? An actor?
Was he being threatened? Or was he simply trying to do honest work to help provide for his own family?

I hope my flowers don't dry up and lose their shape. I like having them out in the open where I can look at them and remember that little boy.


And aren't these just the coolest looking flowers?!

So Long, Fair Well

After four delightful weeks my brother flew out this morning. It was suppose to of been last evening, but we live in a relatively small city with a very small airport and stuff happens. So after he spent a few hours at the airport they told him he couldn't fly and he got to spend one last evening with us. Playing Settlers of Catan. In the four weeks he was here we played that game about twice a day. I loved it. And am going to miss that.
And, of course, him.

There's nothing like having someone seven years younger than you, at the height of the latest technology, movies and artists, to make you feel old.
I won't miss that part. The feeling old part.

One day we were talking about AIM - the instant messenger Paul and I primarily used to keep in touch with each other before we got married and the one that pretty much all of our friends had at that time too. Caleb said "I've heard of it before. I think. But I've never used it."

He talked about AIM the way I would talk about an 8 Track.
And that makes me feel funny.
And old.

My Loves

The guys that have captured my heart.

I think his thoughts at this moment were "Seriously - how many pictures does one woman need to take in one day?!" But he was sweet, and didn't say anything.

Isle of Palms, SC

We made it to the beach yesterday.

We are all sun burned and still finding sand in our hair, ears and between toes.

I miss the beach already.

Love Language

Last week a friend of mine told me that she had sat down separately with her daughter and son and asked them this question "How do you know your sibling loves you?"

Her daughter had a specific answer about what her brother did that made her know he loves her - things like hugging her and spending time with her. Her answers let her mother glean a little bit of insight to how she feels love - physical touch and quality time.

When she asked her son, who is 4, his response wasn't quite so insightful. He said something along the lines of "Because I JUST KNOW she does."

My boys are too young for that question to lead anywhere, but I loved her idea of using that question to dig deeper into the thoughts of her children as to how they saw love.

The other night I overheard Judah tell Wesley "Mommy is SO fun Wezzy." It melted my heart to hear him, from out of the blue, make that comment. But beyond him giving me the warm fuzzies it gave me a bit of insight into his thoughts: to him the best thing about me that he wanted to share with his baby brother was that I am fun. My son likes me being fun.

It is both encouraging and convicting.

Vrooom

Last night we all went to the racetrack as one of Paul's co-workers races his street car occasionally and I wanted to go watch.

Judah was a bit frightened of the loud engines, but Paul helped him overcome his fear of that and by the end of the evening Judah was very bravely sitting on his own, beside Paul. I admire Paul's compassionate and loving approach with the boys - he doesn't coddle them. He just has this great way of making the boys feel safe with him and then turns around and makes them feel safe on their own.

In fact, when I was asking Judah about our time at the race tracks the first thing he said to me was:
"Judah sat by himself beside daddy."
Turns out, it was a pretty big deal to that little boy to be able to sit by himself while the noisy vehicles whizzed by.

The second thing was:
"The motorcycles were noisy. Vrooooom."

And the third thing was:
"I gave Unca Caleb my garbage and he threw it out."

Mmm, yes. My environmentally friendly two year old. The THIRD most exciting thing about his two hours watching motorcycles, cars and trucks doing cool stunts and racing was that his Uncle threw out his garbage - I can't help but wonder, why do parents stress themselves out trying to find "cool" activities to do for their young children?

Or maybe it is just my children that are so easily amused by things like someone throwing out their garbage.

...

I hope not.

Please tell me, what simple things amuse your young children?
Or, even better, what simple things at cool places (like garbage at the race track) amuse your children?

The white car is the co-workers car.

Love & Pretzels

We gave Judah a bag of pretzels to help himself to and within minutes he dumped the entire bag on the living room floor. Wesley squealed in delight and scurried right over to help himself. Judah ran for his truck and started running it over the pretzels. Minutes later he grabbed his race cars and was racing them through the pretzels, making roads lined with pretzels. And snacking as he played.

Normally the extra messes aren't the slightest bit enjoyable. But this poem I shared earlier this week came to mind. Specifically:

Love leaves the dust in search of a child's laugh.

Love smiles at the tiny fingerprints in a newly cleaned window.

I need to figure out a way to display that poem in a place that I will always be looking at it, I love it and am so glad Richella shared it.

Pipecleaner Airplanes

The forecast for the beach was rain, so we stayed home and played with pipe cleaners. We made letters and shapes with them, and when Judah got tired of that the pipe cleaners were turned into airplanes.

The Beach

If the rain holds off this is where we'll be today!

Love

If I live in a house of spotless beauty with everything in its place, but have not love--I am a housekeeper, not a homemaker.

If I have time for waxing, polishing, and decorative achievements but have not love, my children learn of cleanliness--not godliness.

Love leaves the dust in search of a child's laugh.

Love smiles at the tiny fingerprints in a newly cleaned window.

Love wipes away the tears before it wipes up the spilled milk.

Love picks up the child before it picks up the toys.

Love is present through the trials.

Love reprimands, reproves, and is responsive.

Love crawls with the baby, walks with the toddler, runs with the child, then stands aside to let the youth walk into adulthood.

As a mother there is much I must teach my child, but the greatest of all is love.

Quoted on a recent blog post on Imparting Grace

How to Make Cappucinnos... I think

Does anyone else see the head of a bunny on the top of this cappuccino? I noticed that after I took the picture and thought it was kind of funny =)

Monday night we were invited over to a friends house for dinner. Her mother was in town and was cooking a special dinner complete with cappucinno's with dessert. I only sipped at Paul's as caffeine in the evenings and I don't mix well, but it inspired me and I have been making my own cappuccinos at home since then :)

It is fairly simple to do.

Start with brewing a pot of strong coffee.
Bring some milk to a boil.
Pour coffee into your mug, leaving several inches at the top.
Add sugar to your coffee.
Pour the amount of milk you will need for your mug into a smaller bowl or another mug and froth with an electric frother thing.
Add the frothed milk to your mug of coffee and sprinkle cinnamon on top.
Stare at the top until you see what design appears in the top of your mug.

I don't know how you're suppose to make real cappuccinos, and if you regularly make real ones and reading these instructions made you laugh at me, then this obviously wasn't written for you :) I suppose I should google it to see if there is a proper way for this to be done - but this way TOTALLY WORKS FOR ME!

Part of WFMW

Free Food!

Click on the image to go to the SCHWAN'S website where you can get a $10 or less item for free if they deliver to your area. I just ordered 8 2oz steaks to use for special breakfasts, which is Paul's favorite meal. They're delivering Friday and I'll have to pay .5 cents at the door. Can't beat that!!

Thanks Kristin for reminding me of this!

Date Night

Last year when Paul broke his wrist one of his nurses told us about a hotel that does a Steak and Seafood Buffet on Friday and Saturday evenings.
We just recently got around to going and it was amazing. A*M*A*Z*I*N*G

We dressed up and made a special date out of it. It is expensive, but so, so worth it!
We were impressed with the quality and selection of food - even the dessert was incredible. In fact, it was the best restaurant dessert either of us had ever had.
We tried carrot cake, pecan pie and cheesecake, and they were as good - or better than! - homemade.

The salad bar and the pasta bar weren't very impressive, but who goes to a Steak and Seafood buffet to eat pasta or salad?!

I tried crab legs for the first time and was pleasantly surprised. They were pretty good, and it was really fun to sit and chat with Paul and crack crab legs.

Cell phone pics of the food: